Rules for dating a co parent, my boyfriend, his kids, and his ex - part 3
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Just put up the latest update after meeting with the ex earlier this week. Likewise, it may be the case with the new man that you are dating, who may be having his own children and trying to deal with his own problems. Did your lawyer screw the pooch in selecting a mental health professional to begin counseling for your child and or for your family?
My initial reaction was that what you do dating is not any of your ex's business but I quickly scrubbed that as I thought about your kids meeting your dates. A competent lawyer becomes a very good law- yer because of the input he or she receives from the consultant.
This is another sign of a healthy co-parenting relationship. No Effort to Manipulate.
What we say to the other co-parent: I have been disappointed many times by the men in my life. The real answer is: If that sounds like your situation then of course you need to hire a consultant, because if you don't, things rule for dating a co parent change again, your parent- child relationship is going to get much worse and that is not even the worst part, the worst part is that your child won't be getting the treat- ment they need for themselves.
I wasted my time on the wrong guys.
See the comments And as I was writing the response I realized I was beginning to write the next post about relationships. I wasted too much time on the wrong men. This is done without getting into yours or your Ex's emotional needs, wants and desires. Children love both their parents and would not like to hear the other being degraded or spoken disrespectfully. The focus here looks at your attitudes and the emotional reasons for co-parenting blind spots. Looking for your Momentum Dashboard? In this situation a parent can hire a consultant to select a lawyer to work with them in an unbundled legal services agreement.
And between strained ex-parents, there can be some manipulation and control going on.
Identify What's Already Working, as Well as the Areas You Hope to Improve
In my second relationship, the ex had older, college aged kids but his ex wife hated me or hated the idea of me. And keep all boundary discussions about us and not the kids. Well at least what I could control. Web development by BC. You need a consultant to answer that concern.
So, why do I write all this? Until and unless you are absolutely certain about how these allegiances will have a long term effect in the future, you need to wait before taking the plunge with the new man.